tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post7023550653855050094..comments2023-09-30T09:20:05.241-06:00Comments on The Kitchen Witch: Guest Post: Naptime WritingTKWhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16409505008377005185noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-86500745717349641292010-03-01T20:04:36.090-07:002010-03-01T20:04:36.090-07:00You are so insightful, Nap. My daughter has certai...You are so insightful, Nap. My daughter has certain things about her that I have feared would be labeled. Sometimes they are, and sometimes they aren't. I've found that if I don't label her, then that becomes the first step for others not to label her either. I am also trying to teach her to recognize things about herself that will help her to navigate the world in a way that is less stressful for her. I swear, figuring this parenting thing out is never-ending, isn't it?Gibbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04271264528110884129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-77277814135343987202010-02-26T14:10:58.961-07:002010-02-26T14:10:58.961-07:00I always find it so encouraging to read about your...I always find it so encouraging to read about your parenting. Especially about the struggle to blend love and respect for the little one's autonomy and self with the need to survive to naptime. (Your writing on ambivalence really speaks to me as well.)<br /><br />My monster has a very different personality from your Peanut, with its own endearing and challenging bits, but I find it so reassuring and challenging and wonderful to read about your thoughtful approaches and honest feelings. Thank you!macondo mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09501761743249709573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-69486745940935455912010-02-25T04:43:25.978-07:002010-02-25T04:43:25.978-07:00This post is why I love you, Naptime. Not the only...This post is why I love you, Naptime. Not the only reason, for I've loved your blog deeply for a long time, but the essence. You are inspiring and encouraging and so very smart. You validate how I parent my child, which few of my friends truly understand because their kids are so wildly different from mine. Thank you for being honest and vulnerable. It's exciting to imagine just who Peanut will be someday...ckhttp://badmommymoments.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-55370795782443021512010-02-25T00:13:27.788-07:002010-02-25T00:13:27.788-07:00Great post and thanks for introducing us to Naptim...Great post and thanks for introducing us to Naptime, TKW! Like you, I don't believe that all children have to be as easily amused as puppy dogs. My daughter was generally very, very grumpy until she started speaking. Then she was very bossy. Still is. And I mean, she was just born that way. I definitely had to use the strongarm technique with her, threatening to pull over our van and drop her off at any house on the block if she didn't stop screeching. Guess what? She stopped screeching.Linda Pressmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01809808676659629555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-50342096123503511292010-02-24T21:13:45.787-07:002010-02-24T21:13:45.787-07:00I have one of those young intense children too. S...I have one of those young intense children too. She examines your SOUL for 10 minutes or so. It is hard for some people to take. I've only had one negative comment from an always inappropriate Uncle and my Daghter-in-Law (its complicated) crossed the room in about a millisecond and got in my Uncle's face and said "WHAT DID YOU SAY???" Her standing up for my daughter was so powerful I don't even remember his response. <br /><br />Don't mess with the women in my family. Now, my little son...you can mess with him. He likes it. He's a giggler. Yin and Yang.<br /><br />there are so many good and right ways to be in this great world and you are RIGHT ON Naps.Mullet Overhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05514985967587021135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-14477784158655246312010-02-24T20:29:27.157-07:002010-02-24T20:29:27.157-07:00What a great post! I loved it.What a great post! I loved it.Velvahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16034246333318823700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-32466447849238797452010-02-24T19:20:24.182-07:002010-02-24T19:20:24.182-07:00And ps, dear Nap...re: "Labels have always ma...And ps, dear Nap...re: "Labels have always made me feel like I’m a burden---too much for most people and generally abrasive," you are JUST RIGHT. Not too much. I adore you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-1317571422200217852010-02-24T19:18:21.595-07:002010-02-24T19:18:21.595-07:00Brilliant! In fact, now will you please go and ex...Brilliant! In fact, now will you please go and explain how the world does not revolve around the people who are pissing me off this week?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-31933176730584112292010-02-24T16:33:56.943-07:002010-02-24T16:33:56.943-07:00This talk goes on forever, I swear. I am having it...This talk goes on forever, I swear. I am having it daily with one of my kids--at least in my head I am--and it just drives me bonkers. <br /><br />One good thing though...I think you'll find that when the new baby arrives, he'll learn this a little quicker. Except for the bumps in the first few months, of course, siblings are a real blessing for the first born.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05188568358103640489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-55602427308977389292010-02-24T10:45:31.736-07:002010-02-24T10:45:31.736-07:00My older daughter, now 19, was always that way. Sh...My older daughter, now 19, was always that way. Shy, withdrawn, but paying so close attention. She's still that way. A lot of people don't "get" her, and even I can get frustrated. But she's smart and, in many ways, so like me. Really nice post.Maureen@IslandRoarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17183530593417498063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-27134089227247923092010-02-24T09:49:49.311-07:002010-02-24T09:49:49.311-07:00Thanks, Nap and TKW, for this. I have huge fears a...Thanks, Nap and TKW, for this. I have huge fears about seeing certain frowned-upon personality traits of mine emerge in my not-yet-conceived children. How, I've asked myself, will I handle those personality traits in them now that I know what it's like to grow up with them myself? (My parents were rather clueless, which is understandable, but not for particularly good reasons). I'm glad to know someone else out there is actively thinking through that process -- and sharing that so clearly with the rest of us.This Ro(a)mantic Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09324882155203905958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-69921656210162212412010-02-24T09:34:36.615-07:002010-02-24T09:34:36.615-07:00I love the insight here. Since we are newer to th...I love the insight here. Since we are newer to the parenting gig around my house, I've not yet tackled many of these battles. But I admire how you embrace your son's challenging qualities without also letting him run rough-shod over you. I'll be sure to bear this in mind as my own son becomes more opinionated.Gale @ Ten Dollar Thoughtshttp://www.tendollarthoughts.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-6260122399670098772010-02-24T08:21:26.057-07:002010-02-24T08:21:26.057-07:00This was a great post. I just had this conversatio...This was a great post. I just had this conversation with my 7 year old. I have always said she'd make a great salesperson b/c she just doesn't give up but she's so sweet and innocent while she's trying to close me.Lindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01001887689493380499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-67023608097584497492010-02-24T07:52:21.083-07:002010-02-24T07:52:21.083-07:00I was just having a similar discussion with anothe...I was just having a similar discussion with another mom. Having a child (like my youngest) who's never met a stranger, thrives on attention, and shows off for others is fun and cute -- but it's also tiring and scary (because she has no fear). Having one (like my oldest) who is watchful, quiet, and slow-to-warm-up is sometimes inconvenient and time-consuming, but it's also relaxing and safe. I've definitely had to learn the hard way to just accept them as they are and leave the labels off.<br /><br />Also, "because I said so" has become quite the favorite phrase in our house. It doesn't always work, but I'm not giving up on it!Kelly Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12738542739547858853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-2420901273729859652010-02-24T07:36:18.090-07:002010-02-24T07:36:18.090-07:00Thank you both for this. I think I have a new blog...Thank you both for this. I think I have a new bloggy crush in the "Napster" :) I love this post for so many reasons. It is stuffed with both personal and universal bits. It makes us think about our propensity to judge people, to attach labels. It reminds us of the unfortunate fact that much of who we are is tied up in how people see us. It implores us to think about this when raising our own kids and attaching our own labels to self and others.<br /><br />Must spend some time poking around a certain new blog now!Aidan Donnelley Rowley @ Ivy League Insecuritieshttp://ivyleagueinsecurities.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-61623062534751674842010-02-24T06:10:38.973-07:002010-02-24T06:10:38.973-07:00Napster, you had me at your phlebotomy rant. Then ...Napster, you had me at your phlebotomy rant. Then the screwyou rant was icing on the cupcake. I'm convinced we are twins, hatched on different rocks, on another planet. Oh, the places Peanut will go.<br />jcAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-35687106072874210992010-02-24T03:43:49.794-07:002010-02-24T03:43:49.794-07:00Very funny, I like that other people use the same ...Very funny, I like that other people use the same fine parenting techniques that I do with the strong willed ones with little avail. <br /><br />ThanksBryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16707944310982614446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-49542746293966066322010-02-24T00:51:50.227-07:002010-02-24T00:51:50.227-07:00It's always handy to have "Because I said...It's always handy to have "Because I said so. Now, hush." in your Super-Mom Knapsack of Wise and Useful Tricks. I know I, for one, never leave home without it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-48364614009421922782010-02-24T00:29:49.580-07:002010-02-24T00:29:49.580-07:00I don't have kids, but this gives me good insi...I don't have kids, but this gives me good insight into the line that I will draw with them someday. Thanks for sharing.Fresh Local and Besthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06975218501433243628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-78322098679865473122010-02-24T00:23:30.740-07:002010-02-24T00:23:30.740-07:00Labels. Eck. I hate them, but I use them.
My da...Labels. Eck. I hate them, but I use them.<br /><br />My daughter? She is crazy. And happy. She is friendly and busy. So, we get all sorts of labels. My son? He is serious. I love it. I love how different he is. He doesn't really smile for other people because he reserves all his best personality pieces for his mom and dad. That's how it should be, right?amber_mtmchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17871256362646081536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2298701075110623658.post-89153471820245813572010-02-24T00:13:38.942-07:002010-02-24T00:13:38.942-07:00Have a good week of crazy over in your Kitch, Witc...Have a good week of crazy over in your Kitch, Witch. *You* are the awesome one.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com